Alternative Therapies Effective For Anxiety

Some alternative therapies for treatment of anxiety may be more effective than anti-anxiety medications.

Alternative therapies win plaudits

A two-year study has found many complementary therapies work in treating anxiety and may even be more effective than conventional medicines.

The study, by the Australian National University's Centre for Mental Health, took two years to review all medical literature on the usefulness of 34 complementary therapies. It will be published in The Medical Journal of Australia today.

Included in the review were herbal remedies, such physical treatments as acupuncture and aromatherapy, lifestyle treatments such as humor and prayer, and dietary changes.

Anxiety disorders affect 7 per cent of men and 12 per cent of women and are said to be a problem when anxiety disrupts normal life. It is estimated 20 per cent of people with anxiety disorders seek professional help - many others choose self-help or complementary therapies.

Study co-author Anthony Jorm said the best evidence for alternative therapies treating anxiety disorders came from the herbal remedy kava, physical exercise, relaxation therapy and anxiety self-help books.

"Some of these might be as good as or better than current medicines," Professor Jorm said.

But he warned that kava may cause liver damage and taking it was not advised.

There was also evidence a range of other treatments, including acupuncture, meditation and listening to music, had some effectiveness. But the team found no convincing evidence that popular herbal remedies could alleviate anxiety.


 


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Staff, H. (2008, December 5). Alternative Therapies Effective For Anxiety, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/alternative-mental-health/treatments/alternative-therapies-effective-for-anxiety

Last Updated: April 14, 2016

Mental Illness: Information for Family and Friends

Coping tools for people who have family members with bipolar disorder or another mental illness.

Supporting Someone with Bipolar - For Family and Friends

Although there are different types of mental illness and symptoms, family members and friends of those affected share many similar experiences. There is a lot you can do to help your friend or relative. However, you need to look after yourself, too.

Get Help Early

Don't ignore warning signs of mental illness in a family member or friend. The sooner the person receives treatment, the better the outcome is likely to be. It will help if you:

  • Encourage the person to see a general practitioner (GP) or other doctor for an assessment
  • Make an appointment with the GP yourself to discuss your concerns and what can be done (if the person refuses to see a doctor.)

Common Reactions
The distress associated with having a family member with a mental illness may lead to feelings of guilt, anger or shame. Acknowledging these feelings is the first step towards resolving them. It is important to understand that neither you nor the person with the mental illness are to blame for it.

A positive attitude helps
Developing a positive attitude will help you to provide better support for a friend or family member with a mental illness. It will help if you:

  • Find out as much as you can about mental illness, treatment and what services are available in your area.
  • Find out if there are any education and training courses for carers that you can attend.
  • Recognize and accept that symptoms may come and go, and may vary in severity. Varying levels of support will be required at different times.
  • Develop a sense of balance between your own needs and the needs of the person you care for.
  • Contact a support group for carers or relatives and friends of people with a mental illness.

Recognize Your Limits

Although there are different types of mental illness and symptoms, family members and friends of those affected share many similar experiences.You should decide what level of support and care you are realistically able to provide. Explain this to the friend or relative with the mental illness as well as the health professionals involved in their care (for example, the psychiatrist or case manager.) This will ensure that the type of support you are unable to provide can be arranged in another way. You should also discuss options for future care with health professionals and other family members and friends. This will ensure continuity of care when you are unable to fulfill your role as a carer.

Develop Plans

Plans to cope on a day-to-day basis
It is important to encourage a sense of structure in the life of a person with a mental illness. You can:

  • Develop predictable routines - for example, regular times to get up and eat. Introduce gradual changes to prevent boredom.
  • Break tasks into small steps - for example, encourage someone to shower more by helping them put out towels and choose clean clothes.
  • Try to overcome a lack of motivation - for example, encourage and include the person in activities.
  • Allow the person to make decisions - even though it can sometimes be difficult for them to do this and they may keep changing their mind. Try to resist the temptation to make the decision for them.

Plans to deal with disturbed behavior
Try and discuss strategies with the person and health professionals to deal with:

  • Suicidal thoughts - talk about the thoughts with the person and discuss why they are having them. Suggest things to distract the person from the suicidal thoughts. If the thoughts persist, especially if the person experiences hallucinatory voices that suggest suicide, inform their doctor.
  • "Manipulative" behavior - for example, where the person with the illness tells one person untrue stories about mistreatment by the others who care for them. Establish whether the behavior is being used to get extra help and support. Try and involve the person in activities, which will make them feel less resentful towards others. Check out the stories before you react.
  • Aggressive or violent behavior - this may be associated with psychotic symptoms or alcohol or drug abuse. Involve health professionals promptly. For aggressive behavior associated with extreme stress, try to develop an atmosphere that is open and relaxed.

Report aggressive behavior
If someone is persistently aggressive, you should report actual or threatened violence to the treating health professionals (and the police, if necessary) immediately. If you live with someone who is persistently aggressive, seriously consider ways you can live apart. It is very likely that living apart will work out better for both of you.

The Effects of Mental Illness on Brothers and Sisters

Mental illness can lead to a variety of emotional effects for brothers and sisters of the affected person. For example, they may feel:

  • Confusion about their sibling's changed behavior
  • Embarrassment about being in the affected person's company
  • Jealous of their parent's attention
  • Resentment about not being like their peers
  • Fear of developing the mental illness

What brothers and sisters can and can't do

What you can do
If your sibling has a mental illness, you can:

  • Talk honestly about your feelings and encourage others in the family to do the same
  • Be active in improving mental health services - for example, through local mental health support groups
  • Avoid making the ill person the axis around which the family revolves
  • Maintain your focus on living and enjoying your own life

What you can't do
If your sibling has a mental illness, you can't:

  • Be totally responsible for their welfare
  • Make your sibling behave in a certain way - for example, force them to take their medication
  • Solve all their problems or feel you ought to
  • Lessen the impact of the illness by pretending that it is not there

Things to Remember

  • Neither you nor the person affected by the mental illness are responsible for their condition
  • It may help to contact a support group for family, friends or carers of people with mental illness

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APA Reference
Staff, H. (2008, December 5). Mental Illness: Information for Family and Friends, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/bipolar-disorder/articles/mental-illness-information-for-family-and-friends

Last Updated: April 6, 2017

What You Can Do to Help Prevent Eating Disorders

articles-eating-disorder-11-healthyplaceLearn all you can about anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and compulsive overeating. Genuine awareness undermines judgmental or mistaken attitudes about food, body shape, and eating disorders.

Discourage the idea that a particular diet, weight, or body size will automatically lead to happiness and fulfillment.

If you think someone has an eating disorder, express your concerns in a forthright, caring manner. Gently but firmly encourage the person to seek trained professional help.

Basic Principles for the Prevention of Eating Disorders

Every family, group, and community is different in terms of what might contribute to effective primary prevention. Thus, before we offer some specific suggestions for the prevention of eating disorders, we encourage you to consider adopting four principles which are generally applicable to doing prevention work in your family, your community, and your own life.

  1. Eating disorders are serious and complex problems. Their expression, causes, and treatment typically have physical, personal, and social(i.e., familial) dimensions. Consequently, one should avoid thinking of them in simplistic terms like "anorexia is just a plea for attention" or "bulimia is just an addiction to food."
  2. Prevention programs are not "just a women's problem" or "something for the girls." Males who are preoccupied with shape and weight can also develop disordered eating patterns as well as dangerous shape control practices such as steroid use. Moreover, objectification and other forms of mistreatment of women by men contribute directly to two underlying features of an eating disorder: obsession with appearance and shame about one's body.
  3. Prevention efforts will fail, or worse, inadvertently encourage disordered eating, if they concentrate solely on warning parents and children about the signs, symptoms, and dangers of eating disorders. Therefore, any attempt to prevent eating disorders must also address:
    • Our cultural obsession with slenderness as a physical, psychological, and moral issue,
    • The distorted meaning of both femininity and masculinity in today's society, and
    • The development of people's self-esteem and self-respect.
  4. If at all possible, prevention "programs" for schools, churches, and athletics should be coordinated with opportunities for individuals in the audience to speak confidentially with a trained professional and, where appropriate, to receive referrals to sources of competent, specialized care.

What does Prevention Really Mean

Prevention is any systematic attempt to change the circumstances that promote, sustain, or intensify problems such as eating disorders.

Primary prevention refers to programs that are designed to prevent the occurrence of the target disorder before it begins, in other words, to promote and sustain healthy development. Primary prevention of eating disorders programs are often incorporated into the ongoing work of parents, teachers, clergy, and coaches.

Secondary prevention is designed to facilitate identification and correction of a disorder in its early stages when it is less likely to be a "lifestyle" and less likely to be associated with other significant problems like depression. Secondary prevention involves education about (a) "warning signs," (b) effective ways to reach out to people in distress, and (c) referral to appropriate sources of treatment.

Why Preventing Eating Disorders is Important

Approximately 5-10% of postpubertal girls and women suffer from an eating disorder or borderline condition. A great many more girls and women and a significant minority of men find their lives restricted by a negative body image and unhealthy weight management practices.

Consider that, at any given time, approximately 20% of our population suffers from a mental disorder or emotional problem. This means that mental health professionals will never be able to adequately respond to the 4-5 million girls and women who are suffering from full-blown eating disorders or borderline variations, let alone those who are unhealthy and unhappy chronic dieters.

Primary prevention is the only solution. Moreover, we truly believe that identifying and changing the conditions which promote eating disorders will improve the psychological and physical health of virtually everyone in our society, male and female alike.

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APA Reference
Gluck, S. (2008, December 5). What You Can Do to Help Prevent Eating Disorders, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/eating-disorders/articles/what-you-can-do-to-help-prevent-eating-disorders

Last Updated: January 14, 2014

My Story

BJ

My name is...

That shouldn't be a tough question, should it? I could reply with the name "we" ALWAYS use in public - BJ.

That's it, I'm BJ. I am a 39 year-old wife, mother of 3 and grandmother of 1. I am also Chipper, a full-time college student (again), a part-time internet design technician, an EMT, a health and safety instructor and other things. And then, I am Kate, an artist. Celeine, a writer, and the list goes on.

I can remember a single incident at the age of 12 when I clearly saw the formation of one of the other "me's". I was laying in my small bed, in my tiny closet-sized bedroom. I was enduring yet another middle-of-the-night visit from someone who terrorized me for all my childhood and much of the rest of my life. I was praying for him to finish and leave.

I was lying in my bed against the wall, staring out the window that was inches from me. I spent many nights staring out that window and wishing I could fly away; be with the stars and the moon. As I lay beneath him, pretending to be asleep, I was wishing I could escape through the window. Get away.

Suddenly, my wish was answered. I was outside the window. I felt no pain, no weight, no fear. I was disembodied, outside, looking back through. Seeing my body on the bed, as if it wasn't me. I felt sadness for the little girl on the bed, but I felt removed from me. It became a skill I honed and perfected for many years to come.

I have since learned that night was not the first, nor would it be the last time that I broke away from the child that suffered. I also discovered there were "multiple children" within me that suffered various pieces of the abuses that overwhelmed me.

For most of my adult life, I lived in happy denial. I pretended to myself, and to the world, that I was a well-adjusted, happy, content woman. I convinced myself that the things that happened to me, that were completely baffling and unexplainable, happened to everyone. Didn't everyone lose track of time, belongings, people? Didn't everyone find things in their possession they couldn't recall buying, or money spent they couldn't recall spending? Didn't everyone have such drastic extremes in desire and goals? Didn't everyone regularly run into people whose names and faces couldn't be placed?

My story of what caused Dissociative Identity Disorder and what living with DID is like."Victims of multiple personality disorder (MPD) are persons who perceive themselves, or who are perceived by others, as having two or more distinct and complex personalities. The person's behavior is determined by the personality that is dominant at a given time."

That definition describes me. Unfortunately, however, the fact that my behavior might have been determined by various, distinctly different, personalities was only clear to others...Not to me.

"Multiple personality disorder is not always incapacitating. Some MPD victims maintain responsible positions, complete graduate degrees, and are successful spouses and parents prior to diagnosis and while in treatment."

I was the picture of success, responsibility and over achievement. I was also the picture of denial and someone running fast and furious from facing the pain, confusion and internal conflict brought about by a childhood of mistreatment, conditioning and escaping by breaking off and compartmentalizing ME.`

For me though, what started in childhood as a creative, imaginative mechanism of survival, turned into dysfunctionality in adulthood. The ability to compartmentalize and ignore the pain, and the parts of me that carried the pain, broke down. Functioning "normally" became an exercise in futility.

Life became a series of crisis's, hospitalizations, self- destructiveness, suicide attempts, a lost career and a life of utter chaos.

In 1990, I entered treatment. I did the merry-go-round of misdiagnosis for a long time; until 1995, when I was officially diagnosed with MPD/DID and entered an even more difficult phase of self-exploration and healing.

During my treatment I came to the internet searching for support and information. While finding some great things in the way of resources, I also found that some of my needs didn't fit into any of the existing support outlets. I decided to create my own support system.

What began as purely a selfish venture, to find a bit of peer support from people struggling with the same issues, grew into something that became so much bigger than me. WeRMany was officially born on September 3, 1997 and has grown in the last 2 years to a peer group support organization providing real time chat support 24 hours a day, extensive online resources, message forums, an email support group and outlets for people dealing with MPD to share creative writing and drawing.

I hope you find your visit to our site helpful, supportive, and healing. For those who have experienced life's misadventures, I want you to know your life can be better with the proper treatment, support, and friends.

As it says on our homepage: Welcome to WeRMany.

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APA Reference
Staff, H. (2008, December 5). My Story, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/wermany/my-story

Last Updated: April 9, 2016

How to Be Close to Your Friends

Chapter 109 of the book Self-Help Stuff That Works

by Adam Khan:

IF JOE AND PETE ARE FRIENDS, they must have something in common: they went to the same school, work in the same place, etc. There are lots of possible things to have in common, but there is one that really makes a difference one factor which, if it is held in common by Joe and Pete, can make them close friends.

That factor is purpose (aim, intention). If Joe and Pete are both strongly interested in the same purpose, they can be close friends.

So in order to have a close friend, you have to know what your own strongest interest is. What fires you up with passion for the subject? What do you love to talk about? What do you love to read about? What do you love to do? What do you strongly desire? When you know the answers to these questions, and when the answers are not a big list of things, but one major one, you've found your purpose.

Now that you know what your main intention or interest is, you can look at your friends and see which one or ones share that interest. Then, to get closer, you simply make the friendship center around that interest. Do things together along the lines of that interest; learn things about it and share what you've learned with your friend; empower each other and encourage each other to persist along those lines when the going gets tough. Do this and if you're honest with your friend, you can have a very close, warm friendship...a lifetime friendship.

If you look at your friends and none of them share your purpose, join clubs and associations that specialize in your interest area. Go to classes and meetings that center around your interest. Your chances are pretty good that you'll find a friend who can become a close fried. And a close friend is the best thing in the world for your health and happiness.

Find and cultivate a friendship that centers around your strongest interest.

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APA Reference
Staff, H. (2008, December 5). How to Be Close to Your Friends, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/self-help/self-help-stuff-that-works/how-to-be-close-to-your-friends

Last Updated: March 31, 2016

Do Benefits of Intensive ADHD Medication Management Last

An analysis of the largest-ever ADHD treatment study of children with ADHD.

Do ADHD treatment effects persist?

The Multimodal Treatment Study of ADHD (MTA Study) is the largest ADHD treatment study ever conducted. A total of 597 children with ADHD-Combined Type (i.e., they had both inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive symptoms) were randomly assigned to 1 of 4 treatments: medication management, behavior modification for ADHD, medication management + behavior modification (i.e., combined treatment), or community care (CC). ADHD medication treatment and behavior therapy were selected because they had the most extensive evidence-base to support their efficacy, and alternative and/or less well-established ADHD treatments were not investigated.

The ADHD medication and behavioral treatment provided in the MTA study were far more rigorous than what children typically receive in community settings. Medication treatment began with an extensive double-blind trial to determine the optimum dose and medication for each child, and the ongoing effectiveness of children's treatment was carefully monitored so that adjustments could be made when necessary. The behavioral intervention included over 25 parent training sessions, an intensive summer camp treatment program, and extensive support provided by paraprofessionals in children's classrooms. In contrast, children in the community care condition (CC) received whatever treatments parents opted to pursue for their child in the community. Although this included medication treatment for the majority of children, it appeared that this treatment was not conducted with the same rigor as with children who received medication treatment from the MTA researchers.

The initial results from this landmark study examined children's outcomes 14 months after treatment began. Although results from this complex study do not lend themselves to a brief summary, the overall pattern suggested that children who received intensive medication management - either alone or in combination with behavior treatment - had more positive outcomes than children who receive behavior therapy alone or community care. Although this was not true for all the different outcome measures considered (e.g., ADHD symptoms, parent-child relations, oppositional behavior, reading, social skills, etc.), it was the case for primary ADHD symptoms as well as for a composite outcome measure that included measures from a broad array of different domains. There was also modest evidence that children who received combined treatment were doing better overall than children who received medication treatment alone.

In terms of the percentage of children within each group who were no longer showing clinically elevated levels of ADHD symptoms and symptoms of oppositional defiant disorder, results indicated that 68% of the combined group, 56% of the medication only group, 33% of the behavior therapy group, and only 25% of the community care group had levels of these symptoms that fell in the normal range. These figures highlight that intensive medication treatment was more likely to result in a normalized level of core ADHD and ODD symptoms than either behavior therapy or community care, and that combined treatment was associated with the highest rate of "normalization".

As noted above, the results previously reported for the MTA Study cover the period out to 14 months after children's treatment began. An important, but as yet unanswered question, is the extent to which treatment benefits persisted after children were no longer receiving the intensive treatments provided in the study. For example, did the benefits associated with carefully conducted medication treatment persist once children's treatment was no longer being monitored through the study? And, was there persistent evidence that the combination of careful medication treatment and intensive behavior therapy was superior overall to medication treatment alone?

The persistent effects of MTA treatments were examined in a study published recently in Pediatrics (MTA Cooperative Group, 2004. National Institute of Mental Health Multimodal Treatment Study of ADHD: 24-Month Outcomes of Treatment Strategies for ADHD, 113, 754-760.). In this report, the MTA researchers examined how children were faring 10 months after all study-related treatments had ended. During these 10 months, children were no longer receiving any treatment services from the researchers; instead, they received whatever interventions their parents selected for them from providers in their community.

Thus, children who had received ADHD medication treatment through the study may or may not have continued on medication. And, if their parents chose to continue medication treatment, they were no longer carefully monitored by MTA researchers so that treatment adjustments could be made when indicated. Similarly, children who received intensive behavior therapy for ADHD symptoms were no longer be receiving such treatment through the study. Parents of these children could thus continue with behavioral intervention in whatever way they were able to. Or, they may have opted to begin treating their child with medication.

To examine whether treatment benefits persisted, the MTA researchers examined 24-month follow-up data on children in 4 different domains: core ADHD symptoms, symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder, social skills, and reading. They also examined whether parents' use of negative ineffective discipline strategies differed according to children's initial treatment assignment.

Results

In general, results from the 24-month outcome analyses were similar to those found at 14 months. For core symptoms of ADHD and ODD, children who had received intensive medication treatment - either alone or in combination with behavior therapy - had superior outcomes to those who received intensive behavior therapy only or community care. Some, but not all of the persistent benefit of having received intensive medication treatment depended on whether children received medication for some portion of the 10-month interval since study treatment services had ended.




Compared to the magnitude of the differences that were evident at 14 months the superior outcomes for children who had received medication treatment from the researchers was reduced by about 50%. Children who had received combined treatment were not doing significantly better than those who received intensive medication treatment alone. And, those who received intensive behavioral treatment were not doing better than children who had received routine community care.

In order to better understand the clinical significance of these findings, the researchers examined the percentage of children in each group who had levels of ADHD and ODD symptoms at 24 months that fell within the normal range. These percentages were 48%, 37%, 32%, and 28% for the combined, medication only, behavior therapy, and community care groups respectively. Thus, as was found at the 14-month outcome assessment, normalization rates of ADHD and ODD symptoms was highest among children whose treatment included the intensive MTA medication component. It is noteworthy, however, that while the percentages of children with normalized symptom levels were essentially unchanged for the behavior therapy and community care groups, they had declined substantially for the combined (i.e., from 68% to 47%) and medication only (i.e., from 56% to 37%) groups.

For the other domains examined - social skills, reading achievement, and parents use of negative/ineffective discipline strategies there was no evidence of significant treatment group differences in 24-month outcomes. In the social skills domain, however, children who received combined treatment tended to be doing better than children who received intensive medication treatment alone. Similar results were found for parents' use of negative/ineffective discipline. Thus, there continued to be some indication that combined treatment may have been more effective in some domains that medication management only.

As a final analysis, the researchers examined the use of ADHD medication treatment for children in each group at the 24-month outcome period. Seventy percent of children in the combined group and 72% of children in the medication only group were still taking medication. In contrast, 38% of children in the behavior therapy group had been started on medication and 62% of children who received community care were on medication. The doses being received by children who had received medication treatment from MTA researchers were higher than for other children.

Summary and Implications

Results from this study indicate the persistent superiority of the intensive MTA medication treatment for ADHD and ODD symptoms, even after families were left to pursue whatever treatments they preferred and the intensive study-related treatments were replaced with care provided by community physicians. Although these persistent benefits are encouraging, it must be noted that they were less robust than they had been at the 14-month outcome assessment. In addition, there was no evidence that intensive medication treatment was associated with better 24-month outcomes in the other domains examined. Overall, therefore, it appears that the persistent benefits associated with carefully conducted medication treatment were relatively modest.

One likely reason for the dimunition in benefits associated with MTA medication treatment is that a number of children ended medication treatment completely after study-delivered services ended. In addition, it is unlikely that children who continued on medication received the same level of treatment monitoring as had been provided by MTA physicians. Had this careful monitoring of ongoing medication treatment effectiveness continued, it is possible that these children would have continued to do ever better than was found to be the case.

Although children who had received intensive behavior therapy alone were not faring quite as well, a substantial percentage, i.e., 32%, continued to show normalized levels of ADHD and ODD symptoms. Thus, this is additional evidence for the utility of behavior therapy for ADHD. It should be noted, however, that many parents whose child had received behavior therapy chose to begin medication treatment for their child.

In conclusion, results from this study indicate that the benefits of high quality medication treatment persist to some extent even when this treatment is no longer being provided. Although the persistent benefits were modest at best, the MTA authors note that even these modest effects may have important public health benefits. The results also suggest that even intensive multimodal treatment conducted over an extended period does not eliminate the adverse impact of ADHD for most children, and that high quality treatment services provided over many years is likely to be required to help most children reach their full potential.

Finally, these results highlight the pressing need to develop new interventions for ADHD whose efficacy is established through carefully conducted research. Even when provided in the most rigorous way possible, medication and behavior therapy were not successful in normalizing levels of ADHD and ODD symptoms for a large percentage of children. Thus, it seems very important for researchers to focus attention on developing alternative ADHD interventions, and perhaps to strategies for preventing the development of ADHD in the first place.

About the author: Dr. Rabiner is a Senior Research Scientist at Duke University, an expert in childhood ADHD and author of the email newsletter "Attention Research Update."


 


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Staff, H. (2008, December 5). Do Benefits of Intensive ADHD Medication Management Last, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/adhd/articles/do-benefits-of-intensive-adhd-medication-management-last

Last Updated: February 12, 2016

Assertiveness, Non-Assertiveness, and Assertive Techniques

Many with depression don't stand up for themselves. Are you having difficulty with being assertive? Here's how to be more assertive, deal with aggressiveness and improve the communication process.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Having difficulty with being assertive? Here's how to be more assertive, deal with aggressiveness and improve the communication process.Difficulty with being assertive has stereotypically been a challenge ascribed to women. However, research on violence and men's roles demonstrated that many physical altercations result from poor communication which then escalates into larger conflicts.

Many men feel powerless in the face of aggressive communication from men or women in their lives; conversely, passivity in some situations can arouse frustration and anger for many men. As such, assertiveness can be an effective tool for men who are seeking to proactively alleviate violence in their lives, as well as a tool for fostering healthier, more satisfying lives.

Sociologists and mental health professionals are finding that assertiveness is usually displayed in certain circumstances. That is, assertiveness is not a personality trait which persists consistently across all situations. Different individuals exhibit varying degrees of assertive behavior depending on whether they are in a work, social, academic, recreational or relationship context. Therefore, a goal for assertiveness training is to maximize the number of context in which an individual is able to communicate assertively.

Non-Assertiveness

A non-assertive person is one who is often taken advantage of, feels helpless, takes on everyone's problems, says yes to inappropriate demands and thoughtless requests, and allows others to choose for him or her. The basic message he/she sends is "I'm not OK."

The non-assertive person is emotionally dishonest, indirect, self-denying, and inhibited. He/she feels hurt, anxious, and possibly angry about his/her actions.

Non-Assertive Body Language:

  • Lack of eye contact; looking down or away.
  • Swaying and shifting of weight from one foot to the other.
  • Whining and hesitancy when speaking.

Assertiveness

An assertive person is one who acts in his/her own best interests, stands up for self, expresses feelings honestly, is in charge of self in interpersonal relations, and chooses for self. The basic message sent from an assertive person is "I'm OK and you're OK."

An assertive person is emotionally honest, direct, self-enhancing, and expressive. He/she feels confident, self-respecting at the time of his/her actions as well as later.

Assertive Body Language:

  • Stand straight, steady, and directly face the people to whom you are speaking while maintaining eye contact.
  • Speak in a clear, steady voice - loud enough for the people to whom you are speaking to hear you.
  • Speak fluently, without hesitation, and with assurance and confidence.

Aggressiveness

An aggressive person is one who wins by using power, hurts others, is intimidating, controls the environment to suit his/her needs, and chooses for others. An aggressive says, "You're not OK."

He/she is inappropriately expressive, emotionally honest, direct, and self-enhancing at the expense of another. An aggressive person feels righteous, superior, deprecatory at the time of action and possibly guilty later.

Aggressive Body Language:

  • Leaning forward with glaring eyes.
  • Pointing a finger at the person to whom you are speaking.
  • Shouting.
  • Clenching the fists.
  • Putting hands on hips and wagging the head.

Remember: ASSERTIVENESS IS NOT ONLY A MATTER OF WHAT YOU SAY, BUT ALSO A FUNCTION OF HOW YOU SAY IT!

How To Improve the Communication Process

  • Active listening: reflecting back (paraphrasing) to the other person both words and feelings expressed by that person.
  • Identifying your position: stating your thoughts and feelings about the situation.
  • Exploring alternative solution: brainstorming other possibilities; rating the pros and cons; ranking the possible solutions.

Making Simple Requests:

  • You have a right to make your wants known to others.
  • You deny your own importance when you do not ask for what you want.
  • The best way to get exactly what you want is to ask for it directly.
  • Indirect ways of asking for what you want may not be understood.
  • Your request is more likely to be understood when you use assertive body language.
  • Asking for what you want is a skill that can be learned.
  • Directly asking for what you want can become a habit with many pleasant rewards.

Refusing requests:

  • You have a right to say NO!
  • You deny your own importance when you say yes and you really mean no.
  • Saying no does not imply that you reject another person; you are simply refusing a request.
  • When saying no, it is important to be direct, concise, and to the point.
  • If you really mean to say no, do not be swayed by pleading, begging, cajoling, compliments, or other forms of manipulation.
  • You may offer reasons for your refusal, but don't get carried away with numerous excuses.
  • A simple apology is adequate; excessive apologies can be offensive.
  • Demonstrate assertive body language.
  • Saying no is a skill that can be learned.
  • Saying no and not feeling guilty about it can become a habit that can be very growth enhancing.

Assertive Ways of Saying "No":

  • Basic principles to follow in answers: brevity, clarity, firmness, and honesty.
  • Begin your answer with the word "NO" so it is not ambiguous.
  • Make your answer short and to the point.
  • Don't give a long explanation.
  • Be honest, direct and firm.
  • Don't say, "I'm sorry, but..."

Steps in Learning to Say 'No'

  • Ask yourself, "Is the request reasonable?" Hedging, hesitating, feeling cornered, and nervousness or tightness in your body are all clues that you want to say NO or that you need more information before deciding to answer.
  • Assert your right to ask for more information and for clarification before you answer.
  • Once you understand the request and decide you do not want to do it, say NO firmly and calmly.
  • Learn to say NO without saying, "I'm sorry, but..."

Evaluate Your Assertions

  • Active listening: reflecting back (paraphrasing) to the other person both words and feelings expressed by that person.
  • Identifying your position: stating your thoughts and feelings about the situation.
  • Exploring alternative solution: brainstorming other possibilities; rating the pros and cons; ranking the possible solutions.

Assertive Techniques

  1. Broken Record - Be persistent and keep saying what you want over and over again without getting angry, irritated, or loud. Stick to your point.
  2. Free Information - Learn to listen to the other person and follow-up on free information people offer about themselves. This free information gives you something to talk about.
  3. Self-Disclosure - Assertively disclose information about yourself - how you think, feel, and react to the other person's information. This gives the other person information about you.
  4. Fogging - An assertive coping skill is dealing with criticism. Do not deny any criticism and do not counter-attack with criticism of your own.
  • Agree with the truth - Find a statement in the criticism that is truthful and agree with that statement.
  • Agree with the odds - Agree with any possible truth in the critical statement.
  • Agree in principle - Agree with the general truth in a logical statement such as, "That makes sense."
  • Negative Assertion - Assertively accepting those things that are negative about yourself. Coping with your errors.
  • Workable Compromise - When your self-respect is not in question offer a workable compromise.

Method of Conflict Resolution

  • Both parties describe the facts of the situation.
  • Both parties express their feelings about the situation, and show empathy for the other person.
  • Both parties specify what behavior change they would like or can live with.
  • Consider the consequences. What will happen as a result of the behavior change? Compromise may be necessary, but compromise may not be possible.
  • Follow up with counseling if you need further assistance.

Every Person's Bill of Rights

  1. The right to be treated with respect.
  2. The right to have and express your own feelings and opinions.
  3. The right to be listened to and taken seriously.
  4. The right to set your own priorities.
  5. The right to say NO without feeling guilty.
  6. The right to get what you pay for.
  7. The right to make mistakes.
  8. The right to choose not to assert yourself.

Source: This page complements of Louisiana State University Student Health Center

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Staff, H. (2008, December 5). Assertiveness, Non-Assertiveness, and Assertive Techniques, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/depression/articles/assertiveness-non-assertiveness-and-assertive-techniques

Last Updated: June 18, 2016

Adult Women and the Development of Eating Disorders

Eating disorders continue to spread on today's society and not just among teenage girls but also among adult women and males.Eating disorders continue to be on the increase in today's society and not just among teenage girls. Many people believe that eating disorders affect only teenage girls, but that could not be further from the truth. Women are under just as much pressure to be thin as teenagers are. We are seeing more and more women developing eating disorders in their twenties, thirties, forties, and beyond. The onset on anorexia, bulimia and compulsive eating can occur at any time in a person's life.

Even though the reasons for the development of an eating disorder may vary, the feelings about oneself are usually the same. The women suffer with feelings of self-hate, worthlessness, low self-esteem, and they usually feel that in order to be happy, they must be thin. Some may feel their lives are out of control and they turn to the one area of their lives that they can control, their weight. Others may believe that once they attain the "ideal" body image, then their lives will become perfect.

There are many reasons why eating disorders may develop later in one's life. With the high rate of divorce, many women are finding themselves back in the dating game in their forties and fifties. They many begin to believe that in order to find another man, they must be thin. If they are in a marriage and find out that their husband has been having an affair, they may blame themselves for that. The woman might feel that her husband has strayed because he no longer finds her attractive. She will then focus her attention on her weight and feel that if she had only been thin, her husband would not have been unfaithful. Usually when affairs happen in a marriage, weight is not the problem. There are deeper problems in the marriage that probably caused the affair to happen. Women need to stop blaming themselves for their husband's infidelity. Sometimes blaming themselves and their weight for the affair is easier than dealing with the deeper problems that caused the marriage to crumble. In other situations, eating disorders may develop once the children are grown and out on their own. A women who has dedicated her life to raising her children, may all of a sudden find herself alone and start to feel like she has no real purpose anymore. She may start focusing on her weight, believing that she will be happy, once she becomes thin. She may also turn to food for comfort to try and fill the void she feels inside.

Society also puts women under a lot of pressure to be thin. Women are constantly being told that we must have a perfect marriage, be a perfect mother, and have the perfect career. We are given the message that in order to obtain all that, we must have the perfect body. Growing older in today's society is much different for women than it is for men. If a man's body changes or his hair starts to turn gray, he is considered to be "distinguished". If a woman's body changes and her hair starts to turn gray, she is considered to be "letting herself go". Eating disorders become a woman's way of escaping the daily pressures of life. We can no longer enjoy food or allow ourselves to provide our bodies with the nutrition it needs and deserves, because society and the media makes us feel guilty for eating.

A while back I read a quote by Pauline Frederick, it went, "When a man gets up to speak, people listen then look. When a woman gets up, people look, then, if they like what they see, they listen". Unfortunately that statement is very true. Women aren't yet taken seriously enough in the business industry and in their careers. A woman trying to advance in her career may feel that in order to be taken seriously and have her ideas listened to, she must be thin. People today need to realize that someone's appearance has nothing to do with their ability to function in their career. Weight has no effect on someone's intelligence, abilities and job performance. It's time the world started respecting women for their accomplishments and stop judging us by our appearance.

Women need to take a stand and stop trying to live up to the standards that society has set for us. We need to stop buying those fashion magazines and diet products. We need to constantly remind ourselves that we are a person of great value and our weight should not play a part in how we feel about ourselves. We spend to much time and money focusing on losing weight and trying to attain the "ideal" body. Instead, we need to focus on ourselves. We need to get off the diet roller coasters. Diets just don't work and losing weight will never bring you true happiness. Be proud of yourself for who you are and for your accomplishments. Don't allow a scale to rule your life anymore.

If you are suffering with an eating disorder or think you are, I would urge you to seek help immediately. There is no shame in having an eating disorder. Older women sometimes find it hard to reach out and ask for help, because eating disorders are still very much associated as being an illness that only affects teenage girls. The fact is, eating disorders can affect any woman or man at anytime in their lives, age has nothing to do with it. Eating disorders can be beaten and there is help available. You don't need to continue to live this hell everyday. You can free yourself and you can start living the happy, healthy life that you deserve to live.

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Staff, H. (2008, December 5). Adult Women and the Development of Eating Disorders, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/eating-disorders/articles/adult-women-and-the-development-of-eating-disorders

Last Updated: January 14, 2014

Eating Disorders and Family Relationships

Systems theory and object relations theory correspond in the study of eating disorders. Theorists propose that the dynamics of the family system maintain the insufficient coping strategies seen in eating disordered individuals (Humphrey & Stern, 1988).

Humphrey and Stern (1988) contend that these ego deficits are the result of several failures in the mother-infant relationship of an eating disordered individual. One failure was in the mother's ability to consistently comfort the child and care for her needs. Without this consistency, the infant is unable to develop a strong sense of self and will have no trust in the environment. Furthermore the child cannot discriminate between a biological need for food and an emotional or interpersonal need to feel secure (Friedlander & Siegel, 1990). The absence of this secure environment for the infant to gets her needs met inhibits the individuation process of being autonomous and expressing intimacy (Friedlander & Siegel, 1990). Johnson and Flach (1985) found that bulimics perceived their families as emphasizing most forms of achievement except recreational, intellectual or cultural. Johnson and Flach explain that in these families the bulimic has not sufficiently individuated to be able to assert or express herself in those areas. These autonomous activities also conflict with their role as the "bad child" or scapegoat.

The eating disordered individual is a scapegoat for the family (Johnson & Flach,1985). The parents project their bad selves and their sense of inadequacy on the bulimic and anorexic. The eating disordered individual has such a fear of abandonment that they will fulfill this function. Although the parents also project their good selves onto the "good child", the family may also see the eating disordered individual as the hero since they ultimately lead the family to treatment (Humphrey & Stern, 1988).

The eating disordered individual is a scapegoat for the family. The parents project their bad selves and their sense of inadequacy on the bulimic and anorexic child.Families that maintain eating disorders are often very disorganized as well. Johnson and Flach (1985) found a direct relationship between the severity of symptomology and the severity of disorganization. This coincides with Scalf-McIver and Thompson's (1989) finding that dissatisfaction with physical appearance is related to a lack of family cohesion. Humphrey, Apple and Kirschenbaum (1986) further explain this disorganization and lack of cohesion as the "frequent use of negativistic and complex, contradictory communications" (p. 195). Humphrey et al. (1986) found that bulimic-anorexic families were ignoring in their interactions and that the verbal content of their messages contradicted their nonverbals. Clinicians and theorists propose that these individuals' dysfunction is in regards to food for certain reasons. The rejection of food or the purging is likened to the rejecting of the mother and is also an attempt to get the mother's attention. The eating disordered individual may also choose to restrict her caloric intake because she wants to postpone adolescence due to her lack of individuation (Beattie, 1988; Humphrey, 1986; Humphrey & Stern, 1988). Binges are an attempt to fill the emptiness from a lack of internalized nurturance. The binging is also related to the eating disordered individual's inability to determine whether they are hungry or need to soothe their emotional tensions. This inability is a result of the inconsistent attention to their needs as a child. This care effects the quality of attachment between mother and child as well (Beattie, 1988; Humphrey, 1986; Humphrey & Stern, 1988).

The research has not significantly focused on attachment and separation theories to explain eating disorders because it did not view the theories as predictive or explanatory. However, Bowlby (as cited in Armstrong & Roth, 1989) proposes that eating disordered individuals are insecurely or anxiously attached. According to his attachment theory, an individual draws close to an attachment figure to feel secure and soothe their anxieties. Bowlby believes that the eating disordered individual diets because she thinks that will create more secure relationships which will help alleviate the tensions she cannot handle herself (Armstrong & Roth, 1989). This coincides with Humphrey and Stern's (1988) belief that eating disorders function in varying ways to alleviate the emotional tension that they are unable to alleviate themselves. Other research has supported Bowlby's theory as well. Becker, Bell and Billington (1987) compared eating disordered and non-eating disordered individuals on several ego deficits and found that fear of losing an attachment figure was the only ego deficit that was significantly different between the two groups. This again supports the relational nature of eating disorders. Systems theory and object relations theory also explain why this disorder occurs predominately in females.

Beattie (1988) contends that eating disorders occur much more frequently in females because the mother often projects her bad self onto the daughter. The mother frequently sees her daughter as a narcissistic extension of herself. This makes it very difficult for the mother to allow her daughter to individuate. There are several other aspects of the mother-daughter relationship that impedes individuation.


The daughter's relationship with her primary caretaker, the mother, is strained regardless of any family dysfunction. The daughter has to separate from her mother in order to develop her separate identity, but she also needs to remain close to her mother to achieve her sexual identity. Daughters also perceive themselves as having less control over their bodies because they do not have the external genitalia that lead to a sense of control over their bodies. Consequently daughters rely on their mothers more than their sons (Beattie, 1988). Researchers have used several different strategies to collect the data of eating disordered individuals. These studies have used self-report measures and observational methods (Friedlander & Siegel, 1990; Humphrey, 1989; Humphrey, 1986; Scalf-McIver & Thompson, 1989). Studies on eating disordered individuals have also used several different sampling procedures. Clinical populations have frequently been compared to non-clinical populations as controls. However, studies have classified female college students with three or more eating disordered symptoms as a clinical population. Researchers have studied the parents of bulimics and anorexics as well as the entire family (Friedlander & Siegel, 1990; Humphrey, 1989; Humphrey, 1986 & Scalf-McIver & Thompson, 1989). Separation-Individuation Process and Related Psychiatric Disturbances. There are several ways that an unhealthy resolution of the separation-individuation process is manifested. The child attempts to individuate from the mother figure when the child is around two years of age and again during adolescence. Without a successful resolution as a toddler, there will be extreme difficulties when the adolescent attempts to individuate. These difficulties often lead to psychiatric disturbances (Coonerty, 1986).

Individuals with eating disorders and borderline personality disorders are very similar in their unsuccessful attempts to individuate. This is why they often present as a dual diagnosis. Before explaining their specific similarities, it is necessary to explain the stages of the first separation-individuation process (Coonerty, 1986).

The infant becomes attached to the mother figure during the first year of life, and then the separation-individuation process begins when the infant realizes that they are a separate person from the mother figure. The child then begins to feel as though the mother figure and herself are all powerful and does not rely on the mother figure for security. The final stage is rapprochement (Coonerty, 1986; Wade, 1987).

During rapprochement, the child becomes aware of her separation and vulnerabilities and seeks security again from the mother figure. Separation and individuation does not occur when the mother figure cannot be emotionally available to the child after she separated. Theorists believe this originates with the mother figure's only initial attempt at individuation which was met with emotional abandonment from her mother (Coonerty, 1986; Wade, 1987). When the child becomes an adolescent her inability to individuate again can result in eating disorder symptomology and borderline personality disorder symptomology such as attempts at self-harm. The child felt self-hatred for wanting to separate from the mother figure; therefore, these self-destructive behaviors are ego syntonic. These acting out behaviors of adolescence are attempts to regain emotional security while exercising dysfunctional autonomy. Furthermore, both sets of symptoms result from the lack of self-soothing mechanisms that make individuation impossible (Armstrong & Roth, 1989; Coonerty, 1986; Meyer & Russell, 1998; Wade, 1987).

There is a strong connection between eating disordered individuals' and borderlines' failed separation and individuation, but other psychiatric disturbances are related to separation-individuation difficulties as well. Researchers have found adult children of alcoholics and codependents in general to have difficulties individuating from their family of origin (Transeau & Eliot, 1990; Meyer & Russell, 1998). Coonerty (1986) found schizophrenics to have separation-individuation problems, but specifically they do not have the necessary attachment with their mother figure and they differentiate too early.

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APA Reference
Gluck, S. (2008, December 5). Eating Disorders and Family Relationships, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/eating-disorders/articles/eating-disorders-and-family-relationships

Last Updated: January 14, 2014

Cutting: Self-Mutilating to Release Emotional Stress

One reason teens are cutting themselves, engaging in self-injury, is to deal with depression and release emotional stress. Read this story.

Doctors call it the new anorexia -- a dangerous addiction that's catching on with large groups of local teens. It's called, Cutting. Teens taking blades to their bodies trying desperately to take their minds off emotional stress. Kids First reporter Kendall Tenney talked with one teen who almost lost her life because she was trying to cut away the pain.

Warning: graphic/disturbing text follows

"I was with that razor in the bathroom cutting and slicing away."

"I had these feelings and depression and I didn't know how to deal with it."

"I needed a release and that's what it was."

A release that almost took Marie's life last September when she cut too deeply and almost bled to death. "When you're cutting and you go into that trance you don't feel the pain you don't realize how deep you're going."

"How often were you doing this?"

"Once every other month I'd hit bottom for myself and I'd break out the razor."

"It helps take their mind away from the fact that they're depressed."

Doctor Mark Chambers has treated several local teen cutters. "It's almost always the result of depression and very often these kids don't know how to deal with it."

It's something they discover on their own. It might start with just the scratching of the skin and then they realize hey that feels better than what I'm feeling and then it tends to build and magnify from there.

"There can be cases where the cutting is done multiple times, every day."

"How were you able to hide this from people?"

"I did it in places where they couldn't see it like my upper arms."

That lasted 3 years, until Marie's boyfriend told her mother what was going on.

"I was just devastated because I couldn't understand why she would do something like that."

"You feel remorse, you feel guilt, you feel like a freak, you're not supposed to be doing this."

Twice a week, the 23 year old goes to support groups at her church and mental health facilities to control those urges. "I've had setbacks. I'm still going through it, I still cut."

"The thoughts go through my head. This isn't working out... go and cut yourself. You can't deal, go and cut yourself. I don't want to go through life with all these scars on my body."

Marie and her mom are trying to start a local support group for cutters. "Kids First" logged on to teen cutting websites. We found several teens in Nevada admitting to self-mutilation -- all looking for help to stop their addiction.

Psychologists encourage parents to help teens find healthy ways to deal with frustration. Many teens feel like there's something wrong with them and don't understand why they're depressed. Doctors say parents should tell teens feelings like that are natural and consider counseling to help them.

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Staff, H. (2008, December 5). Cutting: Self-Mutilating to Release Emotional Stress, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, October 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/self-injury/cutting-self-mutilating-to-release-emotional-stress

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