How to Love Instead of Worry About Friends
Worry can have our anxiety all up and out of control, and worry never helped one person. Last week I posted a vlog: Love and Fear, The Only Two Emotions. Today's vlog picks up on that theme and lets us know how to love someone rather than worry about them.
Are You Worried About a Friend?
This is a traditional way to show you care, but it has limits (Worry: How Much Is too Much?). Your worry doesn't lift someone up. It doesn't help people see how much you believe in them. It most likely validates that they do indeed have something to worry about.
Love Friends, Don't Worry About Them
Having confidence in someone that they can get through a hard time can be very powerful! You hold hope even when they cannot see it, and your faith is contagious. Your friend begins to have faith, too, propelling them towards what will make them feel better: connecting with others, doing something to care for themselves or walking away from what is hurting them. Knowing they CAN do it makes all the difference. Watch this video to learn more.
Love is a win win situation, you both feel better!
How do you help a friend in need? Feel free to leave a comment!
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APA Reference
Lobozzo, J.
(2012, April 25). How to Love Instead of Worry About Friends, HealthyPlace. Retrieved
on 2024, November 24 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2012/04/how-to-love-instead-of-worry-video
Author: Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R
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I watched the video many times. I do worry a lot about others, and I never looked at it as if I didn't believe in them, but now I understand the point. In fact I can divide my worries about someone in three different points:
I worry a lot about upsetting the person
I worry about not knowing when the person is feeling bad, not to be there for her
I worry about losing the person
Writing them down made me realize it's all about me, and not about them. I am the problem here, not the pther person I am worried about :(
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